Talia (sometimes Thalia) ([info]tinuviel8994) wrote,
@ 2008-07-27 12:06:00
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It is time to make a bold statement in a bold and public venue which is nonetheless private enough ... because none of my real-life friends read it...



I hate religion.
I hate it with a passion. I dislike Orthodox Judaism fiercely. I dislike everything about it. I dislike its misogyny and general disenfranchisement of women; its barbarism; its ridiculous, minute laws; its xenophobia; its isolationism. Its hearkening back to a patriarchal tradition. Its hallowing of texts which are filled with violence. All my friends are religious and I can't seem to respect them enough to really consider whether I am putting the right forks in the right dishwasher, to not hold hands with my notreallyboyfriend outside the house, to care about turning light switches on and off on Saturday. To respect their views on halacha. My parents desperately want me to be religious. They force my poor not-boyfriend, visiting from California, to wear a kippah at all time in the house. They cry when I express my opinions. They want so badly for me to be good like my sisters.


I'M TIRED.
I'm SICK AND TIRED OF PRETENDING IN ANY WAY THAT I CARE ABOUT THESE THINGS. HERE IS MY COMING OUT STATEMENT. I EAT CHEESEBURGERS IN PUBLIC. I KISS BOYS. I TURN LIGHTS ON ON SATURDAY. I HAVE TRIED PORK AND SHRIMP, TOO. I DON'T CARE ABOUT LEVITICUS, AND I CARE LESS ABOUT THE TALMUD - BABYLONIAN AND JERUSALMITE - AND I DON'T CARE WHO KNOWS IT.

I HATE RELIGION.

I DON'T BELIEVE IN GOD.

NOT EVEN A LITTLE BIT.

SO STOP TRYING TO MAKE ME.

I WILL TRY SOMEDAY TO RESPECT YOUR VIEWS BUT I AM PISSED OFF. SO PISSED OFF. AND I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE.



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[info]lisechen
2008-07-27 04:29 pm UTC (link)
College happens soon, yes?

Hang in there.

*passes the Sarte*

I love you, yanno.

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[info]batyatoon
2008-07-27 04:54 pm UTC (link)
You said "not for co-religionists" and I clicked anyway.

Will you believe me if I tell you I sympathize? Not in the "I've been there" way but in the way where I think maybe I get it even though I haven't been there?

Because ... you can't persuade yourself into caring about something (anything) to make other people feel better about you, or about themselves. Even if you want to. And you can't pretend to care for any length of time without making yourself miserable. And you can't really be in a position to respect anyone else's views when no one's respecting yours.

It's oppressive, and it's not fair, and I'm sorry. And I wish I could help.

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[info]lucullean
2008-07-27 04:59 pm UTC (link)
*hugs*

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[info]luhtarian
2008-07-27 05:21 pm UTC (link)
We've all come a long way...

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[info]elladarcy
2008-07-27 05:23 pm UTC (link)
Oh sweetie... I can't imagine how much this must suck for you. Just remember that you are your own person, and what matters most is that you like the person that you are.

You're leaving the nest of your family and community soon, and once you're out you can decide, FOR YOURSELF, how the person you are acts, and you can take or leave whatever you so choose.

Just hold on a little longer, you awesome, awesome girl.

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[info]chatalaine
2008-07-27 09:35 pm UTC (link)
Ah, excellent. I have a whole lot more respect for those who grow up mentally and emotionally and begin to question arcane ideology than for those who mindlessly swallow it like so much poisonous pablum.

Being home in an orthodox household, however - that must be very, very tough. Caught between love for your parents and the need to live your life, your way - I remember that. Sending you as much cyber-patience as I can gather up...

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[info]genarti
2008-07-28 07:57 pm UTC (link)
Oh, hon.

I'm sorry.

As Batya says -- trying to care about something for other people's sake, not because they do but because they feel you should, never ends happily. And it's an awful, sucky, horribly frustrating situation to be in, and it makes it infuriatingly hard to respect other people's views and not resent them when they're not respecting yours.

I'm sorry you're stuck in it. Soon you'll be out of that house and into the wider world, yes? Which isn't an immediate fixer for everything, by any means, but it gives you an astonishing amount more freedom to figure out how you want to live, I've found. And that's trial and error, and that's fine too.

Hang in there.

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[info]dragonkitiara
2008-07-31 02:46 am UTC (link)
All I have to say is, Amen sister

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